published articles
I am a member and life coach on the Life Coach Directory where you will also find many of my written articles on relationships and various different emotional situations and in depth articles also on the many different types of Narcissism that can affect our lives when we are involved in any kind of relationship with these individuals because they enter our minds and our belief systems at a very deep psychological level and corrupt our core beliefs. Through awareness and recognition of tactics, and realisation that their destructive actions are not linear we can begin to detach and emerge often after years of being caught up in the destructive dynamic and their effect.
I hope that the articles l have written will bring you some clarity on the different subjects l have written about and researched..l believe it is as C S Lewis said..
“We read to know we are not alone” — C S Lewis
This is my wish for you, that you know that you are not alone, for when one each of us go through troubling times, it is the feeling of isolation in our aloneness with our troubles that is the worst.
The grief of having a child with narcissistic traits
We must stand alone in order to stand beside someone
When you have decided to walk away...
Empathy is a gift - don’t let it work against you
Boundaries: There are a lot of misunderstandings around them
We are wired for belonging: Why is it so important?
Love is not measured by endurance - it is measured by joy
Why the connection stops - and when it does, let it
The narcissist is supposedly always right: How to end the myth
How to recognise and break the cycle of emotional abuse
Kindness - what it is and how and why it is deserved
How to protect your self-worth when others diminish you
Perfection at Christmas - what if it isn’t like that for you
Communicating by not communicating? Here’s how to change it
Are you fearful of relationships, yet long for them? Here’s why
Need to know how someone else feels before you know how you feel?
Overcoming emotional overwhelm: Your guide to emotional freedom
Are you being emotionally invalidated in your relationships?
Rewarded for not having needs. Sounds familiar? Here’s why
New relationship? Let the story unfold - don't write it first
Attention vs intention - you choose: Here are the clues
Beating the value wound: Be the flame and not the moth
A true story about love
The stages of relationships
Attunement in relationships: What is it and how do we achieve it?
Being needed: Are you so good at it?
Choosing someone to hold space for your emotional pain
Always in relationships with unavailable people? Here’s why
Awe, connection and belonging - the keys to happiness
Lowering our trauma
Trauma and its effect when it gets stuck in your nervous system
Normalising talking about your needs in a relationship
Are you lonely? Loneliness is far more prevalent than you think
Relationships: Running on someone else’s schedule?
Don’t push grief away, it needs to come out!
How to move on when a relationship ends
The traits of a covert narcissist (and who they choose to target)
Covert narcissism: Why do narcissists discard?
Attractions that lead to love and attractions that lead to pain
How to have relationship success: What makes them work
How to attract better relationships
When their 'safe place' is space! Relationships that don’t work
Intermittent reinforcement: A relationship red flag
Why are you still obsessed with the narcissist when it’s over?
How to move beyond the illusion it was love
When you have had enough: Are they or aren’t they narcissistic?
What kicks off the 'devaluation' stage with a narcissist?
What to do in the aftermath of a covert narcissist’s discard
How do we navigate the Wild West of modern-day dating?
Trust: Can it be rebuilt in relationships?
Living with consequences
We are different with different people - who fits best for you?
Do you abandon yourself? Here's the why and how to fix it
What to expect when you call out a covert narcissist
Red flags? Knowing when to stay and when to move on
Why covert narcissists idealise, devalue and discard
Do you know how you feel in your relationships?
Attachment healing and
When happiness in so unfamiliar in relationships
Loving an unavailable person
Trauma bonding in a romantic relationship
Creating a better team at work through belonging
Relationships examined - hang out with your own tribe
Grief: Relationship grief, or through death, or through any kind
Feeling the pain of being in a narcissistic relationship
When your soul hurts
Dating with a covert narcissist and what to watch out for
Hope and forgiveness in the wrong hands
Dating - what to watch out for when you’ve had a bad experience
Love bombing and its dangers in a relationship
Confidence and how to avoid emotional danger
The dismissive avoidant style of attachment explained
Relationship worries for anxiously attached people - what to do
Relationship mistakes explained and made easy to change
Relationship change: When different attachment types get together
Grief is not just about losing someone
Grief: Complex post-traumatic stress disorder and recovering
Post Christmas holidays and how we cope with our emotions...
Divorce grief
Surviving Christmas with a dysfunctional family
