published articles
I am a member and life coach on the Life Coach Directory where you will also find many of my written articles on relationships and various different emotional situations and in depth articles also on the many different types of Narcissism that can affect our lives when we are involved in any kind of relationship with these individuals because they enter our minds and our belief systems at a very deep psychological level and corrupt our core beliefs. Through awareness and recognition of tactics, and realisation that their destructive actions are not linear we can begin to detach and emerge often after years of being caught up in the destructive dynamic and their effect.
I hope that the articles l have written will bring you some clarity on the different subjects l have written about and researched..l believe it is as C S Lewis said..
“We read to know we are not alone” — C S Lewis
This is my wish for you, that you know that you are not alone, for when one each of us go through troubling times, it is the feeling of isolation in our aloneness with our troubles that is the worst.

Love is not measured by endurance - it is measured by joy

Why the connection stops - and when it does, let it

The narcissist is supposedly always right: How to end the myth

How to recognise and break the cycle of emotional abuse

Kindness - what it is and how and why it is deserved

How to protect your self-worth when others diminish you

Perfection at Christmas - what if it isn’t like that for you

Communicating by not communicating? Here’s how to change it

Are you fearful of relationships, yet long for them? Here’s why

Need to know how someone else feels before you know how you feel?

Overcoming emotional overwhelm: Your guide to emotional freedom

Are you being emotionally invalidated in your relationships?

Rewarded for not having needs. Sounds familiar? Here’s why

New relationship? Let the story unfold - don't write it first

Attention vs intention - you choose: Here are the clues

Beating the value wound: Be the flame and not the moth

A true story about love

The stages of relationships

Attunement in relationships: What is it and how do we achieve it?

Being needed: Are you so good at it?

Choosing someone to hold space for your emotional pain

Always in relationships with unavailable people? Here’s why

Awe, connection and belonging - the keys to happiness

Lowering our trauma

Trauma and its effect when it gets stuck in your nervous system

Normalising talking about your needs in a relationship

Are you lonely? Loneliness is far more prevalent than you think

Relationships: Running on someone else’s schedule?

Don’t push grief away, it needs to come out!

How to move on when a relationship ends

The traits of a covert narcissist (and who they choose to target)

Covert narcissism: Why do narcissists discard?

Attractions that lead to love and attractions that lead to pain

How to have relationship success: What makes them work

How to attract better relationships

When their 'safe place' is space! Relationships that don’t work

Intermittent reinforcement: A relationship red flag

Why are you still obsessed with the narcissist when it’s over?

How to move beyond the illusion it was love

When you have had enough: Are they or aren’t they narcissistic?

What kicks off the 'devaluation' stage with a narcissist?

What to do in the aftermath of a covert narcissist’s discard

How do we navigate the Wild West of modern-day dating?

Trust: Can it be rebuilt in relationships?

Living with consequences

We are different with different people - who fits best for you?

Do you abandon yourself? Here's the why and how to fix it

What to expect when you call out a covert narcissist

Red flags? Knowing when to stay and when to move on

Why covert narcissists idealise, devalue and discard

Do you know how you feel in your relationships?

Attachment healing and

When happiness in so unfamiliar in relationships

Loving an unavailable person

Trauma bonding in a romantic relationship

Creating a better team at work through belonging

Relationships examined - hang out with your own tribe

Grief: Relationship grief, or through death, or through any kind

Feeling the pain of being in a narcissistic relationship

When your soul hurts

Dating with a covert narcissist and what to watch out for

Hope and forgiveness in the wrong hands

Dating - what to watch out for when you’ve had a bad experience

Love bombing and its dangers in a relationship

Confidence and how to avoid emotional danger

The dismissive avoidant style of attachment explained

Relationship worries for anxiously attached people - what to do

Relationship mistakes explained and made easy to change

Relationship change: When different attachment types get together

Grief is not just about losing someone

Grief: Complex post-traumatic stress disorder and recovering

Post Christmas holidays and how we cope with our emotions...

Divorce grief

Surviving Christmas with a dysfunctional family
